I want to highlight what should be my mantra for my clients “Commit to irreverent luxury, you’re worth it!”.
Do you have grandma’s fab china packed away? That’s fine if you hate it, but if it’s totally great then USE IT!!! If you take a tray upstairs and eat in bed, is the tray silver or that “good” one (no you say, those are for special occasions. If you don’t think you’re special then who will? USE the damn tray!).
Is your living room still for company (clearly you have not been following this blog closely enough. Go back to post #1 and start reading). What’s more of a bummer than someone who saves all the good stuff for impressing others? You and your family count the most!!! Can you imagine how exhausting it would be to coordinate your whole life so that other people will think you’re fabulous, stylish, well-bred, and wealthy? OMG kill me now. We all know people like that…fake, fake, fake (the saddest thing is they don’t see how clearly transparent it is)! You are the only person who needs to be fabulous for yourself- “BE FABULOUS IN PRIVATE AND PUBLIC”!!!
Learn what allowing yourself to be Fabulous means to you and only you, then show the world. LIVE AUTHENTICALLY!!! On your death bed I don’t think anyone has ever reflected how happy they were that the world saw them as perfect, sophisticated, restrained, and appropriate at all times. (oh I’m snoring again) FACT: people like that are not likeable! Lose the veneer, it’s cracking anyway!!!. Practice having some inappropriate fun! Show people how awesome it is not to be perfect! Laugh at yourself!
Now I am not saying have no filter and say anything- no no no! The whole idea behind manners and etiquette are not to leave people in Awe of how perfect you are. They are to look out for the feelings and well being for others - that's all - so simple. We all need to use manners and basic etiquette to help make the world better and more enjoyable for all, but not to the point of restraining you so much you’re not yourself- don’t take it too far.
My absolute passion in helping others design their homes is this: To use my experience and design ability to help give permission to my clients to have the confidence to be themselves and have their home reflect just that. To actually learn to celebrate being themselves on a daily basis. Repeat after me “truly being yourself is FUCKING AWESOME!!!” Shouldn't your home reflect all things awesome about you and your family (including kids and pets). Live Authentically!
Truth be told I do have grandma’s china (that I love)- packed away. Honestly, I personally am on the same journey as everyone else. So easy to see the world clearly and give advice- so hard to swallow the same medicine (so hard to take the time!!!). I did eat breakfast on one of Grandma’s trays recently, though. I am working on it- I promise!